Rushing to the Rooftop
Hey there! Blogging is something that comes natural to a lot of people. But not to me. There was a time about 15 years ago that I LOVED to write. Back when Xanga and Myspace were popular and I was a moody teenager that felt like the weight of the world was on her shoulders.
Nowadays, I don’t feel like Atlas, and that is why sitting down and taking the time to talk weddings has seemed more like a chore than a task that I look forward to. I was groomed to talk about the nuances of being a teenager and now I get to write about love! What a flip of the script. Truth is, every single wedding that we have been filmed has been absolutely beautiful and we are truly blessed to be chosen to capture each and every one of these special moments.
Over the next few weeks I will be writing about the intimate moments that has made each wedding come to life, and about the touches the bride and groom have added to create a unique ceremony that embodies their personalities and love!
As you can tell by the video above there is no better place to start than our own nuptials!
On a blistering 95 degree day, Jordan and I said “I will” on a downtown Kansas City rooftop. The end.
We planned our wedding in three weeks. I know, crazy. Once we decided that we didn’t care to wait a year, we picked a date and ran with it. Luckily, I was in between jobs, so I was able to get a lot done during the day. I never was a big Pinterest person, so I had NO IDEA what I wanted but I did know that I wanted us to create a personal and intimate atmosphere for our guests.
Jordan and I aren’t much into long ceremonies, so we wrote our entire ceremony script out ourselves and only included verbiage that was important and meaningful to us. My dad read 1 Corinthians 13 before the officiant lead us into our glass bead unity ceremony.
We had each immediate family member pick a color and then we combined the beads (much like a sand ceremony). It was amazing because we shipped the beads off and had them blown into a knotted infinity sculpture. It was so special.
Neither one of us really wanted to write personal vows to read to one another, so instead we wrote vows to repeat back that were meaningful and truthful.
I take you as you are, loving who you are now and who you are yet to become. I promise from this day forward:
- To be grateful for our love and our life
- To be generous with my time, my energy, and my affection
- To be patient with you and with myself
- To fill our life with adventure and our home with laughter
- To encourage you to grow as an individual, and inspire you to do so
- To love you completely
- These things I pledge before you, our friends and our family
We decided that we would say “I WILL” instead of “I DO” because not only did we commit to our vows on that brutally hot August day, but we wanted to continue to commit to them every day forward.
Rings were exchanged, kiss as had, and like that we were wed!!
We tried to add personal touches throughout the day as well. I presented Jordan with cufflinks and a tie clip from sand shipped in from North Avenue Beach where he proposed. At the ceremony, besides the glass bead ceremony, I made each bridesmaid a bouquet charm with someone who was no longer with them (my charm had my Grandma in a bikini in Hawaii). At the reception each place setting had a laser engraved wood name tag for guests to take home, we had a gelato bar to bring Italy to us, and at the end of the night we passed out Garretts Popcorn from Chicago (where we got engaged).
The party headed over to P.S Speakeasy at the end of the night where we were joined by more friends who weren’t able to make our ceremony. Of course, looking back there are things that I wish we would have planned out a little better. But, there is not a thing I would change!!!
Jordan has a dislike for writing even stronger than me, but I was able to get him to pen a few words. So from the eloquent touch of Jordan Rushing:
Such a whirlwind of a year. We rekindled our friendship in October, began dating in November, I moved to Kansas City in December, we got engaged in May, and married in August. We knew we were perfect for each other and thought why waste time not being married to each other? Our original plan was to elope in Italy & honeymoon in Iceland, we filed out the paperwork, got our apostille birth certificates, and had everything was ready. Then about six weeks prior to our original wedding date we found out that renting the Positano City Hall for 30 minutes & having a legally required translator would cost us $2,500.
So, ultimately we decided that instead of shelling out twenty five hundred dollars, on honestly nothing, we would instead use that money to feed our closest friends and family in Kansas City. Since the tickets were booked, we would treat both Italy & Iceland as one long honeymoon. This gave us three weeks to plan our wedding, with one week until the honeymoon. Sounds about right given our whirlwind of a year already.
The day was one of those days that was somehow both really long and incredibly short. Kind of like how when you’re a kid and a day lasts a lifetime, and how a day can go by so fast when you’re having so much damn fun. Gretchen surprised me with her gift, she had SAND SHIPPED to her from the beach I proposed to her on to make cufflinks & tie clip for me to wear down the aisle. We got married on a rooftop in downtown Kansas City in 98 degree heat. But not before I had to race home to get the marriage certificate that we had left on the counter of our apartment! Luckily we lived only 3 blocks away, but with a full suit it was a brutal run. We had 25 of our closest friends and immediate family members as witnesses to share the day with us.
Our dinner was a bit non-traditional, I know shocker, but since we had a smaller affair the dinner was served family style where we passed food around to each other. I wasn’t sure about it at first, but I am so glad we did it that way. It just sealed the deal on the whole day being really intimate for everyone. One of my favorite moments is that we were so wrapped up in the evening that we cut the cake, and then forgot to eat it!
I wouldn’t change a single thing about August 25, 2018.
~Gretchen + Jordan Rushing
💑 Couple: Us!
🎥 Videography: David Sosna
🎬 Video Editing: Rushing Productions
🧠 Day of Coordinator: AH Planning KC
🏠 Venue: Green Rooftop Park + Pinstripes
💄 Makeup: KC'S Bombshell Beauty Crew
✂️ Hair: Cosmo by Chel
🌹 Flowers: Hen House
👗 Gown: Savvy Bridal Boutique + Stephanie's Bridal Boutique
🕴🏼 Suit: Men's Wearhouse
🍰 Cake: Sam's Club
📸 Photography: Victoria Van Der Linden
💌 Invitations: SweetPartyWishes